It’s a tough question, which is why the man went on the Reddit thread ‘IATA’ for answers
Going against your partner’s wishes is always a point of contention, that’s why one internet user has asked strangers of the internet to see if he was in the wrong after a disagreement with his wife.
Reddit user etagzgwizb4222222 took to the popular internet forum and posted a question on the thread ‘IATA’ – which stands for “am I the a** hole?”
It’s up to Reddit users to decide whether he’s in the right or wrong or not, and this situation is pretty thought provoking. Let’s take a look.
He said: “I spent six years in prison and I have been out eight. When I was in prison, I met a man, Scott, who had already been in there for 15 years. He was very much respected by most of the prison and almost everybody left him alone.
“For some reason, he ended up taking a liking to me and he helped me navigate the prison scene and gave me some really good advice on how to stay out of trouble. He essentially became the father that I never really had, without sounding too corny.”
It turns out the prison that the man went to was pretty rough, and he says that he wouldn’t have made it out alive if it wasn’t for the other man’s advice and guidance.
“When I got out I got my s*** together and eventually met my now wife. We have a son together who is now four.
“I heard last week that Scott has passed away. I was super upset and knew that I had to go to his funeral to pay my respects. I confirmed with Scott’s daughter (who I’ve met before) that it was okay if I attended (due to COVID restrictions only a certain number of people can attend).”
He told his wife, who was aware of the man’s time in prison with Scott, that he planned on going to his funeral. Let’s just say, she wasn’t happy.
He continued: “She got upset with me and told me that I have a family now, and that I should be focusing on my family, not people I knew in prison.
“I told her I wouldn’t be here without Scott helping me, but she refused to agree with me.”
The big question is, is he the a** hole for planning on going to the funeral? Or is he completely in the right?
Reddit users had some pretty strong opinions on the thread, which mainly consisted of a lot of NTA’s. Not sure what NTA means? Here’s the abbreviations used on the thread:
You’re the a** hole (& the other party is not) = YTA
You’re Not the a** hole (& the other party is) = NTA
Everyone sucks here = ESH
No a** holes here = NAH
Not enough info = INFO
The internet has spoken. It would seem that the majority of Reddit users think the man is not the a** hole.
People actually got pretty sassy in the comments too, with one user commenting: “Her logic doesn’t even make sense – ‘don’t go pay respects to your former business partner, you have a better job now’ or ‘don’t go to your mother’s funeral, you have your own family now.'”
Another agreed: “NTA. You’re just paying your respects to someone who meant a lot to you. It’s not like you’re going to, I don’t know, hang out with people who always get you in trouble or have a bad influence on you. You’re just going to a funeral.
“I feel like your wife might think that everyone who goes to prison is a bad person. This guy helped you out and made you want to get your life together. I feel like it would be disrespectful to not go.”
Some comments were pretty insulting too: “Naw dude, you’re definitely not. She needs to get her head out of her a** though”, ouch.
So, it would seem in this case that the man is not the a** hole for wanting to go to the funeral of a man who saved his life in prison. What do you think? Do you agree?